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    Lessons from My FSHD

    December 9, 2020

    I was nineteen years old when I was diagnosed with FacioScapulaHumeral Muscular Dystrophy (FSHD).  That was a long time ago and I’ve been living with it for many years.  Living with a disability can be trying and difficult for many people.  For me, I’ve been blessed and never wanted my disability to be the defining […]

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    Lessons from My FSHD

    December 9, 2020

    I was nineteen years old when I was diagnosed with FacioScapulaHumeral Muscular Dystrophy (FSHD).  That was a long time ago and I’ve been living with it for many years.  Living with a disability can be trying and difficult for many people.  For me, I’ve been blessed and never wanted my disability to be the defining characteristic of my life.  For the most part, this has been true about me but as I get older my FSHD has asserted itself in unexpected ways.  Perhaps you also have a disability as well.  These are some of the many lessons from my FSHD.

    A Work in Progress

    We are all works in progress in many ways.  However, my FSHD has taught that it and I, are a work in progress together.  My disability develops and progresses.  This means it looks and feels different at different stages.  It means I need to realize there are going to change.  Using my arms will be harder at a certain stage.  Walking will be challenging at another stage.  In short, adapting and accepting change is important.

    Take It Slow

    If you have a physical disability like FSHD, it is going to affect your pace.  It is going to take me longer to get ready to go somewhere.  It is going to take longer to get dressed.  I can’t be at the same pace that other people can.  I knew a woman with a disability who was rushing to get to the phone and fell and got hurt.  When you have a disability, you need to accept a slower pace of living and getting things done.

    Embrace the You-ness

    Yes, I know this is not a word.  However, if my FSHD has taught me anything, it is I have to embrace my Me-ness.  My Me-ness is the me that actually exists, not the one that exists in my mind.  My Me-ness includes accepting what I actually am.  Accepting me is one of the first steps in being friends with my FSHD

    Eat and Sleep Well

    Everyone should try to eat and sleep well.  However, it is particularly important for someone with a disability to have good wellness habits.  Too much weight is not good for someone with a disability.  Eating the wrong foods may also create complications.  Having good sleep habits can also help to build a healthy life.  I need to get enough sleep and go to bed and wake up at roughly the same time.

    Be Patient

    My FSHD doesn’t like patience.  When you have a disability, patience is important.  I need patience with myself and also others.  Some people with disabilities depend on others.  Being patient with people who care for them.  Frustration is common for people with disabilities and their caregivers.  Be patient.

    Attend to Mental Wellness

    Don’t neglect your mental and emotional health.  People with disabilities and their caregivers are particularly susceptible to problems like anxiety and depression.  I good therapist can help you to adust and cope.

    These lessons from my FSHD have helped me in many situations.  They have helped me to make adjustments as my disease has changed.  They have helped me to cope with the uncertainties of having FSHD.  Click here if to download the FSHD lessons infographic.

    Resources

    https://www.mda.org

    https://www.sleepfoundation.org tips

    Filed Under: disability, FSHD, wellness Tagged With: counseling, disability, facioscapulahumeral, FSHD, Wellness

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    How to Have the Best Thanksgiving Ever

    November 25, 2020

    It’s almost time for thanksgiving.  Are you ready for the same old thanksgiving?  Maybe you’re a member of one of those families that don’t struggle, have no black sheep, and never raise their voices.  Then there’s the rest of us.  Wouldn’t you like this thanksgiving to be the best thanksgiving ever?  Well, it can be.  […]

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    How to Have the Best Thanksgiving Ever

    November 25, 2020

    It’s almost time for thanksgiving.  Are you ready for the same old thanksgiving?  Maybe you’re a member of one of those families that don’t struggle, have no black sheep, and never raise their voices.  Then there’s the rest of us.  Wouldn’t you like this thanksgiving to be the best thanksgiving ever?  Well, it can be.  Here are some suggestions on how.

    No Politics

    In such a contentious election year, people are more divided than ever before.  Talking politics is something many are not thankful for.  Therefore, agreeing to steer clear of politics might be in everyone’s best interest.

    Don’t Overeat

    For some, Thanksgiving is synonymous with overeating.  This is not a good thing.  Eat smaller portions.  Save some for later.  Don’t overdo it.

    Less is more

    Perhaps this is the motto of a healthy person.  As Americans, we’ve been trained to supersize.  However, maybe in regards to Thanksgiving, less is more.  Go small.  Less food.  Less people.  More wellness.  Living simply is one of the keys to wellness for some people.

    Family

    Thanksgiving is a time to enjoy family.  Admittedly, not everyone’s family is enjoyable.  Some families are great.  Others, not so much.  Look for areas of common ground.  Find and focus on those.  Leave the rest.

    Boundaries

    Set healthy boundaries.  Know when to say no.  No to unwanted interactions,  No to politics(yes, again).  No to contentious conversations.  Conversely, say yes to self-care.

    Time Outs

    A football or basketball team sometimes needs a time out to regroup.  Sometimes we do too. And timeouts are not just for children.  Take a time out if there is conflict and withdraw and take a break.  Time outs are good if there are unwanted interactions or situations.  You can use a timeout to be by yourself or do some solitary activity to redirect yourself.

    For this to be the best thanksgiving ever, you have to do things in a different way.  Click here for an article on developing habits of thanksgiving.

    Resources

    How minimalism can help you find wellness

    Great article about boundaries and wellness

    Filed Under: faith, graditude, Thanksgiving, Uncategorized, wellness Tagged With: boundaries, Christian Counselor, Family, thanksgiving, Wellness

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    Mindful Grounding Exercise for Anxiety

    November 18, 2020

    A few years ago my friend from graduate school was relating to me how her daughter, who had recently acquired a new job was struggling with anxiety.  She went on to describe to me how she got a great new job bit that one of the requirements of the job was to pass a comprehensive […]

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    Mindful Grounding Exercise for Anxiety

    November 18, 2020

    A few years ago my friend from graduate school was relating to me how her daughter, who had recently acquired a new job was struggling with anxiety.  She went on to describe to me how she got a great new job bit that one of the requirements of the job was to pass a comprehensive competency test.  It seems that her anxiety was a form of test/performance anxiety.  I suggested that she teach her the mindful grounding exercise.  I will describe it and give examples below.  I’ll come back to the conclusion of this story later.

    Step One: Sight

    Before you begin doing the grounding exercise you may want to find a few minutes and a place to yourself to concentrate on being mindful.  The first step in the mindful grounding exercise is to identify five things you can see.  Some examples might be…

    • I see the window
    • I see the door
    • I see the lamp
    • I see the bookcase
    • I see my guitar

    Step Two: Touch

    The second step is simply to identify four things you can feel with your sense of touch.  Some examples of this are…

    • I feel my feet on the ground
    • I feel the pen in my hand
    • I feel arms resting on the armrests of the chair
    • I feel the fan blowing on my skin
    • I feel my bottom in the seat of the chair

    Step Three: Hearing

    The third step is to identify three things you can hear.  For some people, this requires being more mindful than they are used to simply being cluttered with noise.  Examples of this step are…

    • I hear the traffic outside
    • I hear the dogs
    • I hear the fan going
    • I hear the air conditioner running
    • I hear the neighbors four-wheeler outside

    Step Four: Smell

    At this stage, it can get a little dicey for some people.  From here on out the exercise requires mindful concentration.  Step four of the grounding exercise is to identify two things you smell.  Examples of this are…

    • I smell my coffee
    • I smell food
    • I smell the room freshener
    • I smell clean clothes
    • I smell my deodorant

    Step Five: Taste

    The final step to the grounding exercise is to identify one thing you can taste.  Examples of this are…

    • I can still taste my toothpaste
    • I can still taste the coffee I drank
    • I can taste my mouthwash
    • I can taste my gum

    Now back to my story from above.  My friend taught her daughter the grounding exercise.  In addition, she told her to do the exercise a few times right before she had to take the test again.  She did it, and consequently, her anxiety was lower and she did great on the test.  This is sometimes called the 1-2-3-4-5 exercise.  And as you can see it’s not complicated at all.  It’s just paying attention to your senses and that can have a dramatic impact on struggles like anxiety, stress, depression, and coping with difficult situations.  This and other exercises can be found here.

    Click here to download my Mindful Grounding Exercise Infographic

    Filed Under: anxiety, General, grounding exercise, mindfulness Tagged With: COVID-19 Counselor, graham counselor, grounding exercise, mindfulness, Wellness

    The Benefit of Practicing Grounding Exercises

    November 12, 2020

    Practicing grounding exercises can have many benefits.  Grounding exercises are a form of mindfulness practice.  Research suggests grounding exercises can affect wellness and health in many areas including cognition and emotional health.  And there is a myriad of different kinds of grounding exercises.  So what are some of the benefits of practicing grounding?  Below are […]

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    The Benefit of Practicing Grounding Exercises

    November 12, 2020

    Practicing grounding exercises can have many benefits.  Grounding exercises are a form of mindfulness practice.  Research suggests grounding exercises can affect wellness and health in many areas including cognition and emotional health.  And there is a myriad of different kinds of grounding exercises.  So what are some of the benefits of practicing grounding?  Below are several benefits of grounding

    Focus on the Senses

    Grounding exercises focus on physical sensations.  Focusing on things like what we see, hear, smell, etc.  Grounding by observing one’s senses is useful because it helps to cope with unwanted thoughts and sensations.  These types of exercises are often used with people who struggle with PTSD, mood disorders, stress, and in substance use treatment.

    No Time Traveling

    That’s when we get in our hot tub time machine(or Delorean) and travel to the past or the future.  When we go to the past we think about painful things from our past and play them over and over in that youtube viewer that only exists in our mind.  Or we go to the future and think about all the unknown.  “Will I have enough for retirement?” or  “Will I find a romantic partner?”  Your brain can’t be in two places at the same time.  You can’t practice grounding and also be in the past or the future.

    Relaxation

    Grounding exercises are helpful in reaching a more relaxed state.  While grounding, our level of relaxation increases.  Consequently, our ability to cope also increases.  Research literature establishes grounding as an effective coping technique for traumatic and unwanted thoughts and emotions.  Relaxation is a key solution to coping with the consequences of many mental health struggles.

    In conclusion, grounding exercises are easy to learn to do.  They help people who struggle with stress, depression, anxiety, and similar mental health struggles.  Click here to learn a simple grounding exercise.

    Resources

    https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding

    https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding-techniques#:~:text=Grounding%20is%20a%20practice%20that,happening%20in%20the%20present%20moment.

    Filed Under: anxiety, grounding exercise, mindfulness, Uncategorized, wellness Tagged With: counselor graham nc, grounding exersise, mindfulness, MIndfulness counselor, Wellness

    Mental Health and the Family Impact of COVID-19

    November 5, 2020

    If you asked any of us a year ago what would life be like in 2020, it’s doubtful anyone would have guessed we’d be going through a global pandemic, replete with lockdowns and self-quarantining. At the beginning of the year, some families might have thought of being forced to stay home from work and school […]

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    Mental Health and the Family Impact of COVID-19

    November 5, 2020

    If you asked any of us a year ago what would life be like in 2020, it’s doubtful anyone would have guessed we’d be going through a global pandemic, replete with lockdowns and self-quarantining. At the beginning of the year, some families might have thought of being forced to stay home from work and school would be a fun little vacation. But as the weeks and months have passed, we’ve all learned this has been anything but fun.  Therefore, the family impact of COVID-19 has been dramatic.

    But how is COVID affecting families? Well, it affects parents and kids and spouses a little differently.

    How it Affects Kids

    Kids haven’t enjoyed the time off nearly as much as we all initially thought. Disruption to normal routines caused many teens and adolescents to feel anxiety. Add to this being away from their friends, and many young people are also feeling depressed.

    Summer vacation for many this year wasn’t as fun as normal. Travel has been next to impossible for some families in certain states. Cancellations of sports events occurred.  Boredom has set in for many kids, which has led to a lot of acting out and showing mood swings.

    The pandemic has also negatively impacted those youths already suffering from a mental health issue.  An example of this is those on the autism spectrum. For many of these kids, a disruption of routine combined with the cancellation of speech therapy sessions has stalled their progress and caused anxiety.

    With some schools opening and some only offering online classes, life is still not back to normal and many kids are simply not able to deal with this crisis any longer.

    How it Affects Parents

    Parents have, without question, been hit hard by the pandemic. With forced school closures, many parents have had to learn how to home school while also learn how to get used to the “new normal” of working from home.

    As if that wasn’t enough, parents have also had to become mental health therapists, helping their children navigate through the fear, anxiety, and depression they are experiencing.

    How it Affects Spouses

    Quarantining and self-isolation have definitely impacted our familial and romantic relationships. When you are locked in a house with your family, things get chaotic and, well, everyone gets on each other’s nerves. Now forced to live on top of one another, and enduring financial hardships, worrying about health, and educating and organizing the children—just going grocery shopping can add a layer of stress.

    Many couples may already have relationship issues under the surface.  These couples may find the sudden and intense stress has brought these issues to the surface. This can be a turning point for many relationships.  They may ask themselves “will this current crisis bring us closer or finally drive us apart?”

    Without question, we are all living under an intense amount of stress.   This stress is affecting us all in different ways. If you and your family aren’t able to handle the stress any longer, it’s important that you reach out and get some help from a family counselor. Most therapists are offering telehealth services, which means you can get the benefits of therapy right over the internet.  IN conclusion, there are options for those struggling with the family impact of COVID-19.

    If you’d like to explore treatment options, please reach out to me. I’d be more than happy to discuss how I may be able to help.  To contact me click here.

    SOURCES:

    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hope-resilience/202005/covid-19-mental-health-effects-children-and-adolescents
    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/202004/how-covid-19-affects-marriage-and-how-adapt
    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/facing-trauma-together/202008/why-parents-need-time-play-during-covid-19

    Filed Under: COVID-19, Family Therapy, General Tagged With: COVID-19, COVID-19 Counselor, Family, Mental Health, Wellness

    Why Developing Habits of Thanksgiving is Healthy

    November 22, 2018

    In the United States, we have a Thanksgiving holiday.  It’s a government-sponsored time to give gratitude for the things and people in our lives we are thankful for.   But thankfulness is a mark of a healthy inner intellectual and emotional life.  People who develop habits of thankfulness tend to be more people.  So, why should we […]

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    Why Developing Habits of Thanksgiving is Healthy

    November 22, 2018

    In the United States, we have a Thanksgiving holiday.  It’s a government-sponsored time to give gratitude for the things and people in our lives we are thankful for.   But thankfulness is a mark of a healthy inner intellectual and emotional life.  People who develop habits of thankfulness tend to be more people.  So, why should we develop habits of thanksgiving?

    Habits of Thanksgiving Keep Us Centered

    Developing habits of gratitude is a staple in substance use and recovery counseling programs.  Participants of such programs learn to do a daily list of things they are grateful for.  This and other similar habits enable them to center themselves.  Centering ourselves on the things in our lives that are good is a positive habit.  It’s easy to focus on the chaos in our lives.  Therefore, developing habits of thanksgiving keeps us centered.

    Habits of Thanksgiving Help to Develop Emotional Openness

    When we are thankful, we are open to new things.  Thankfulness helps us to become aware of the ways that we have been blessed.  As we develop a sense of gratitude for our lives we are more open about future possibilities.  Because of this, thankfulness opens new doors in our lives.  This openness can lead to new relationships and opportunities for growth.

    Habits of Thanksgiving Make Us More Physically Healthy

    There are a variety of positive effects that thankfulness can have on our health.  One of these is the benefits a habit of gratitude has on physical health.  Research suggests more emotionally balanced people are thankful.  This balance leads to a more healthy physical life.  According to Psychotherapist Amy Morin people who are thankful are more proactive about their health.  As a result,  they take steps toward being more physically healthy.

    Developing habits of daily gratitude can lead to greater inner discipline.  Also, it leads to increased emotional and physical health.   Above all, we stay centered and live in the moment. When we develop habits of thankfulness.

    Filed Under: graditude, Thanksgiving, Uncategorized, wellness Tagged With: graditude, graham counselor, habits of thanksgiving, Wellness



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