How to Make the Husband Hall of Fame: Burlington NC Counselor

If there was a Husband Hall of Fame, I want to be in it.  I’ve been married for eighteen years.  It has always been my desire to be a good husband and father.  At times, I’ve felt pretty good about that. However, there have been other times that I didn’t feel as good about it. I have always wanted for my name to be in the Husband Hall of Fame.  By the way, these are things I shoot for.  Furthermore, they are not necessarily things I have mastered.  So here are my suggestions on how to be a great husband.

Make Her Feel Like a Queen

Most women want to be cherished and valued by their husbands and children.   Find ways to treat her like a queen.   By the way, every queen wants to be treated differently so the King has to know how to make her feel like a queen.  Make her feel that she comes first and the rest will come.

Make Her Feel Emotionally and Physically Safe

In his book, The Search for Significance, one of the things that Robert Mcgee points out is that women long for security,  One of the things husbands can do is to create an environment that fosters both emotional and physical safety.  However, that means an absence of verbal, emotional, and physical aggression or abuse.  Make her feel safe in your presence.  She should know you will always protect her and never hurt her.  Make her feel safe.

Woo Her with Words of Love

I had a guy in one of my churches that was convinced that he didn’t need to tell his wife he loved her anymore.  What a bunch of nonsense!  If you want to build an intimate and tight relationship with your wife tell her she is precious, loved, and comes first.  Don’t assume she knows how you feel about her.  Make sure she knows.  Woo her with words of your love for her and do it often.

Make the House a Place She Wants to Be

The house is a woman’s castle.  It has sometimes been said that the man’s domain is the outside and the womans’ inside.  Help her to make the house a place that she wants to be.  Although the furniture and decor may not be important to some men, it is very important to many women.  Help her to make the house her house.  Make it a place she is comfortable safe and wants to be.

Think of How to Help Her Before she Asks

Be proactive.  There are things that she is going to need help with.  As such, do them before she asks you for help.  Do the dishes before she asks.  Make the bed while she is in the shower.  Take the dirty clothes into the laundry room before she can.  These are what Dr. Gary Chapman calls acts of service.  These proactive acts will go a long way in making your wife feel loved and appreciated

Initiate Physical Touches with No Expectations

Physical touch is another one of Dr.Chapman’s love languages.  However, sometimes when some men think about physical contact they associate it with sex or leading to sex.  Instead of thinking about touch in this way, change your thinking to include affectionate physical touches that have no expectations of sexual intimacy.  You might find that the results are surprising and that it can help bring you both closer in many ways.

Being a counselor in Burlington NC my purpose is to help men in my community.  I am sure that you, like me, want to be the best family men that you can.  Consequently, I hope you will find this suggestion helpful.  I wish you well.